Party Lessons

Okay, so I'm not quite the party animal that my sister is, but last weekend we had the opportunity to celebrate Elliana's first birthday with 40 friends and family members. I was an event coordinator for a couple of non-profits, but this was a totally different type of party. Here are some things that I learned to do and not to do in the future:

Photography - My husband Vince took some great pictures of the decorations before the party started. That was great for future planning and ideas. Unfortunately, we didn't get very many good pictures during the party because we were busy doing everything else. Next time I would assign a family member with a good eye for picture taking to this job.

Presents - Since Elliana was only one, she wasn't so into opening presents. We had several little girls who helped. One way to keep the gift frenzy under control is that we started from the youngest child and she got to open her own gift for Elliana. After all the kids opened their own gift, they could then choose another gift to open (for siblings, they just opened a gift from a different giver).

If the party isn't at your home - We decided to have the party at my parents house because it would accommodate all of our guests better. I planned for the party like I do when I pack for a trip: I have a laundry basket and I throw stuff into it as I remember the items I'll need to pack. The day or two before the party, I sort the supplies according to decor, paper goods, etc. and put instructions on each grouping. I also go through the entire event in my mind to think if I might need anything else. For example, for the pinata we would need the pinata itself, rope to hang it, a stick to bang it, candy to fill it, bags for the kids, labels for each bag and a garbage bag for the aftermath.

Focus on what's important - A lot of stuff happened that was out of my control, including questionable behavior from some family members. I was really upset (okay, I'm still pretty ticked off), but the day was about the guest of honor. As long as Elliana had a good time and I did the best I could, than I need to realize that that made it a successful day.

It's the details; it's not the details - I tried to think of everything I could to make the party run smoothly. The details make the party special. BUT.... if your guests feel welcomed and that you are having fun then the cake, the decorations and the favors are all secondary. If your guests feel that you are burdened by perfection and getting the details right, you've just defeated the purpose of a celebration.

So here are some things that I learned. I also know to create a Plan B because I know certain issues are going to come up again. Parties are a symphony of culinary balance and social juggling. Thank God birthdays only come once a year!